my dollar and two cents

Rarely ever do I share my opinion on celebrity drama, especially baby mama, and baby daddy drama. However, this time I felt compelled to speak on a few things because this co-parenting couple, in particular, has been trending since the birth of their first child, who is now three years old. 

Over the years, fans and haters of all parties involved, the mother, the father, and the stepmother, have created nasty takes about their character, morals, and lifestyle. We only know what we see and what they want us to see and know. However, over these past three years, we all got to bear witness via Instagram Live and Stories of their parenting skills and love for their child, as well as his personality. 

From what I have seen over the years, a child who loves both parents is a sweetheart, spoiled, outspoken, and highly intelligent for his age, (listens to how well he can articulate his thoughts and emotions). I think it would also be safe to say due to all these amazing qualities about this child, on top of being the 1st born of two well-off parents, he’s not disciplined. 

Side note: I do not believe whooping children is the only way to discipline them. I honestly think it shouldn’t be a method at all. There are several ways to discipline children, depending on that child’s love, interest, and social-emotional needs or issues. 

I don’t think many parents realize the strain undisciplined children can put on their romantic relationships, family relationships, and co-parenting relationships, especially when the other parent decides to start dating again. It’s a lot to deal with, especially when you aren’t cruel or abusive to children like some people are, who won’t hesitate to put their hands on someone's child or even their own. So I can only imagine and sympathize with a pregnant 20-something-year-old stepmother of one, who’s a mother of an infant, and currently carrying, feelings mentally and emotionally while dealing with an undisciplined stepchild, whom she does not have the grounds to discipline under any circumstances. 

I can also deeply sympathize with a toddler who is experiencing drastic changes, such as his father having two more children back to back after being the only child for three years. On top of his parents splitting during the earliest years of his life, the number of physical altercations and arguments he witnessed, in addition to having an uncensored environment. And by an uncensored climate, I mean being present when you hear adults do or say things in front of children that they shouldn’t, or hear a parent bad mouth someone else. I’ve said this before, and I’ll repeat it: people underestimate children. Children know way more than they lead. Even with their lies, they’re never just lies; 9/10 it’s steaming from someplace mentally or emotionally. Same with how they express themselves, regardless of how well they can put together words. When a child has experienced trauma, what they feel, and think should never be minimized. Especially when a child is upset, crying hysterically about his mother potentially having another child, or saying he’s going to shoot someone because they’re mean to them...that’s not normal. 

That’s when I now feel like this child’s emotional pain was never meant to be displayed on the internet for the world to see. This type of family dispute is the type that two mature parents should acknowledge, with the help of a licensed child physiologist to get to the root of this child’s pain, feelings of neglect, and treatment. Because I believe the easy thing to do for a child is to blame someone other than their parents. Hint: someone they know their mother does not like. 

Unfortunately, this is now how many young black parents look to dissolve issues regarding their children, and I think it’s so unfair to the child to have the world know that their parents do not have love & respect for one another. Things can never be handled privately & maturely. Airing children/family laundry online is not protection. 

I don’t think many people discussing this drama have even truly thought about how detrimental this could all be for the child, because everyone is using this situation to project, and further hate on all parties involved. 

Women attacking Women over a Man choosing to split his family up. 

Women Attacking the Other Women

Women Attacking the Baby Mothers

Women attacking Women without kids

All are based on personal experiences (insecurities, failed relationships, tainted relationships, etc), looks, and fan-like behavior. 

Like Tara & Amina used to say, it’s about the kids, ALWAYS about the kids.